Much of the reason I love him to this day is that having only those methods of communication meant we left all pretences behind. Just yesterday he told me I’m the only person who truly knows him, he treasures that and treasures me. We are currently facing the “who moves” situation.
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Freed from the pressure of a pending outcome—no question of a second drink, moving to a second bar, or going back to anyone’s place—I became immersed in these conversations that lasted, sometimes, for hours. For the next few weeks, I called the Austin programmer often. I wondered what it would be like going on a first date with him, now that I sort of knew him. But I had no plans to visit Austin and we lost touch. The best way to avoid this mistake is to make all communication optional, meaning that both of you canopt out at any time.
In a new relationship, you haven’t developed the time and the synergy with your significant other to learn their little nuances and ticks. In fact, according to a well cited study by Albert Mehrabian , only 7% of our communication comes through words. With that in mind, we put together this comprehensive guide for any couple who is either in, or facing, a long distance relationship.
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Sounds like you have that same certainty about your relationship, so I’m sure everything will work out. It has brought me some comfort that me and my significant will push through the years. As I write this now, I am 3 days away from boarding a flight without any certainty of coming back to this country but I’m sure we’ll be just fine. Sounds like you have everything pretty well planned out and under control. The waiting period for visas etc is the biggest stress, though it’s having solid plans and knowing when you’ll see each other again etc that I found kept us sane. It’s so great to hear stories of long distance relationships working out from avid travelers, because that’s exactly the boat that we’re in/are going to be in.
I firmly believe that you can make anything work if you want to. If you truly want something to work, and you put everything you have into it, you’ll be surprised at what you can accomplish. I wont lie – long distance for 18 months was incredibly hard, but we made it work by maintaining the following. If you, like me, dedicate a large portion of your time to travel, and spend more time traveling than you are resident in your own country, you’re more than likely to meet someone overseas. Being separated from the person you’re madly in love with can hardly seem like a positive thing. But where you can’t immediately change your circumstances, you can immediately change your attitude.
That weekend I talked to a neuropsychologist from Milwaukee; a software developer from Austin, Texas; an improv instructor from Seattle; and an economics masters student from London. At first, these calls were a little awkward—what were you supposed to say to a complete stranger you’d probably never meet? But then, what couldn’t you say to a stranger you’d probably never meet?
May be standing on top of a mountain in New Zealand, 7,000 miles away from my husband, but I don’t think we’ve ever been happier or felt more in love. When I FaceTime him we laugh and giggle like newlyweds. Letters.Who doesn’t enjoy receiving a hand written letter?
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But if not, I will spend at least 6 months out of the year with him. From my experience, looking forward to the future and seeing our life together as a realistic picture was what kept both of us optimistic. Obviously in your case the thing that is hurting this optimism is the prospect of being without your mother. Talk to your mum and see what she has to say, maybe she’ll put your mind at ease over the situation.
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Gottlieb also advises that it’s important to share details with your partner instead of just generalizations. For example, don’t just say, “I went to this dinner and had a great time.” Instead, really delve into the details. Talk about who was there, what you talked about, what you ate and how it made you feel.
But don’t let their doubts influence the way you feel, because there are others out there in your same situation making it work every day, and the only person who knows whether or not a relationship is right for you is you. The negativity is because they don’t understand, and people are often skeptical or even afraid of what they don’t understand. The biggest advice I can give you for dealing with the negativity from family and friends is to make a vow not to let it affect you.
While most couples would rather be right next to each other, career and travel opportunities can come between them—but these couples have endured separation without harming their connection and foundation. Currently an assistant editor at Prevention.com, Nicol is a Manhattan-based journalist who specializes in health, wellness, beauty, fashion, business, and lifestyle. Her work has appeared in Women’s Health, Good Housekeeping, Woman’s Day, Houston Chronicle, Business Insider, INSIDER, Everyday Health, and more.